Well, my two boys and I. Much to the chagrin of my mother, with whom we live. She is outnumbered as an allistic, but I do have my doubts she is all that (pun intended). I digress…
D’s diagnosis was quite simple. I chose the same man who diagnosed H because he knows us, advicates for an all inclusive world and I know him. D was diagnosed quite quickly, like H, except D presents in a more classic way to H’s Aspergery, HFA way. (H likes to use HFA. D and I prefer autism.) I gather the differentiation is speech. D was a very late speaker and is not too keen speaking unless it is to someone he really likes and wants to bond with or he is recalling songs or dialogues from Youtube. He also slurred his words til he was 6yo and spoke in an American accent til he went to kinder. There are very marked differences between how my boys present.
H likes to flsp his arms and use quick movements to stim. He has a loud voice and does not mind making annoying sounds. He has problems coordinating his strength and position of his body in space, so he has broken do many dining sets and glasses. He is very tactile sensitive and hates surprising, loud noises. His IQ is quite something and it means he can mask his autism well, using his observations of people.
D, on the other hand, holds his body in awkward ways, runs with a 3yo gait, withdraws from people, has dead pan expressions, uses a lot of echolalia in his ordinary speech (mimics what others say), hates certain clothing and bed sheets, sensitive to smells, very particular about routines and order (ok, he is anal) and has a very strong sense of social justice.
The boys are chalk and cheese. But they are best mates. They bounce off each other’s strengths and weaknesses, share similar humour and like very similar things. I am so blessed to have two beautiful souls as sons.
So, I had to fill in two questionnaires, as I had already compiled a 6 page report and sent it last week. I sent school reports and examples of things others had made for D whilst he was last in hospital. D’s general IQ was assessed and a pattern apparently emerges that is particular to ASD folk. D’s cognitive wraknesses are the same as H’s, but an octave lower. So, while H’s vocabulary was IQ equivalent of 142, D’s was 132, for nstance. And all the others were the same overall graph pattern, yet pushed down the chart a tad.
I had an hour interview with the psychologist to clear up some issues and answwr questions, but D was clear to the psychologist within half an hour. There are tell tale signs. D smiles at things he thinks of at random times, he rocks visably when nervous, mininal eye contact, he lacks any expression until he REALLY knows you, he answers all questions as if all questions are closed (requiring single word answers), he wears clothing I’m not overly fond of and makes him seem like Comic Book Guy from The Simpsons, and he can quickly correct mistakes in factual information.
Now I wait for a report. A copy will be sent to the school. This assessment was essentially done to provide the school with his diagnosis in print. An expensive exercise in appeasing the authority. But it is done and D seems happy to have a reason to why he feels so different.